“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” –The Mourning Bride, 1697

Except in this case it was a man. Despite the fact that I did not get my daughter back half the time and my husband got full decision making, my situation was slowly improving. I was no longer seeing my daughter with a supervisor present, and she would soon get to spend a couple of nights a week with me. My husband fought hard to stop this from happening, and he lost. This seemed to be making him a bit crazy. He was desperately searching for other ways to gain control and it came to me in the form of email harassment.

Paulina,

As a follow up to our previous communication, as a reminder, Pickup is at the classroom not the roof. They come down together as a class at 4pm. Parents wait on the 4th floor.

Additionally, please remember to sign our daughter out on the clipboard above the cubbies. 

I know I already sent this to you, along with some other things that were important to know over text on Monday May 6th, however, both our daughter and her teachers mentioned to me that you picked her up from the roof on both Monday and Thursday last week, as well as I was told you did not sign her out either day.

I’m sure you can agree that the school has certain rules and processes in place, everyone needs to follow, for the benefit of the children’s safety.

I spoke to her teachers. They told me it was perfectly fine to pick her up on the roof. I also only forgot to sign her out once, not twice.

I wrote him back and told him he’s misrepresenting the facts and writing useless emails for litigation strategy.

Paulina,
1) Did you pickup our daughter from the roof last week on Monday and Thursday?     

– As stated both Nicoletta and her teachers BOTH conveyed this to me.     

– Are you saying that they are lying to me?

2) Did you sign her out both days?     

– It was also mentioned that she was not signed out.     

– Upon checking the sign in / out sheet my self this morning the sign out slot for our daughter on both days was blank.     

– Would you like me to send you pictures of them to corroborate the facts you state are misleading and inaccurate?

This has nothing to do with a litigation advantage and everything to do with effective co-parenting. I was simply sharing with you what was shared with me. If you were fully aware of the rules and procedures of the school then these things would not have been mentioned to me. If you would prefer for me Not to pass these things along to you, ok, but I think not doing so would be a much better example of not promoting effective co-parenting between us.  Wouldn’t you agree?

My husband’s biggest perceived litigation advantage was his newfound beliefs on vaccinations.

Paulina,
After meeting with Dr Bergman this morning, I no longer see the need to speak with Dr Palevsky and would like move forward with his recommendations on beginning a vaccination schedule for our daughter. 

A) if Dr Palevsky opposes, it will not sway my opinion on not vaccinating.

B) if Dr Palevsky supports, it only further validates my opinions.

C) either way, I prefer not to delay the process.

I am still open to speaking to Dr Palevsky by phone, if he can become available for this conversations this week.
I am comfortable with Dr Bergmans recommendations, additionally, I feel it is it also necessary to include the chicken pox vaccine.
I’d like to schedule an appointment with Dr Bergman to begin vaccines for Nicoletta as early as his availability Monday or Tuesday next week.
Please let me know which day works best for you.

He must have realized that this one was too harsh since this is what came next…

Paulina,

I would like to clarify my position in my last email.  I have taken your concerns and beliefs into consideration for the life of our daughter.  We have discussed this issue many, many times.  We have also discussed this issue with Dr. Palevsky in the past and I believe that I know where he stands on this issue.

We have now spoken to other doctors who have taken a different position.  I think I have given full consideration to the point of view of Dr. Palevsky. I also think I have given full consideration to your point of view.

I have also seen articles, news reports and heard opinions of doctors who I respect and I believe that it is in our daughter’s best interest to have the vaccinations which have been recommended.  I am happy to speak  to Dr. Palevsky, but I can’t believe that he will tell us anything that he hasn’t told us in the past.

Absent some new information, I intend to move forward as I indicated in my last email.

After 4 years of being firmly against vaccinating, he decided that our daughter absolutely needed to get vaccinated the very next day… after delaying her vaccinations for a week due to his impeding trip to Miami.

Paulina,
As previously mentioned, I have fully considered all of your opinions and replied accordingly with my own.  We have allowed the medical professionals which we have consulted to provide us with the information surrounding the topics of our discussions and advise on a catch up schedule.  
I am fully aware of the requirements of the DOE.
Regardless of the low risk given her age, they are all required and a necessity to protect her. Logically it makes more sense to administer the Pediarix for many reasons.
The suggestion to meet Dr Bergman was an attempt to further address “your” concerns, if you felt the information you received in the first visit was not sufficient enough for you.
You are obviously allowed to receive opinions from any source you choose, however, I think it makes sense to address your concerns with the primary doctor caring and advising for our daughter on a regular basis.  I would encourage you to open a dialog with Kimberly.
I do not want to delay past this week. As an alternative to Friday afternoon there is availability tomorrow at 10:20am or 1pm and also Friday at 1pm.  I can switch the appointment to any of these as to not interfere with your afternoon meetings Friday.
Please let me know ASAP.

I had to cancel my meeting in order to show up at my daughter’s doctor’s appointment. It simply could not be rescheduled to another day.

The above are just a few examples of countless emails with the same BS. Everything he said, did, and wrote was designed to bully me and take control. There was not one single email that played any part in improving my daughter’s life. I literally became scared to open my inbox in fear of another email from my husband.

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